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Fyah Friday- Fashion and ish

Effortless and amazing

I really enjoy fashion. I am not particularly into brands but I have learned that you get what you pay for most of the time. Also, I am a few years past the  Forever 21 throwaway-outfits  age range so it’s important that I buy clothes that fit well and will last.    Here are some of the fashion bloggers that I follow .

Folake Huntoon at Style Pantry

I really like Folake’s effortless and classic style. Always sexy but modest at the same time. She has a look of the day everyday and always lets us know how to get versions of the clothes and shoes she features.  Men’s wear, fitness gadgets too! #getit!

Patrice Yursik at Afrobella

Patrice is one of the pioneer black fashion bloggers and as testament to her hard word she even has her own MAC lipgloss. That’s a big deal! I been following her for years and has seen her grow into a major player in the beauty blogging scene. She has lot’s of info  on health and products and fashion events to keep you entertained. Definitely one to check out.

Beena at Beena’s Little works of Art.

This youtube channel is all about natural (without acrylic tips) nail art. I sometimes think that I have a lot of makeup but I actually have a tons of nail polish. It’s pretty cheap and it’s easy for me to pick up a few bottles in beautiful colours that I want try on my nails. When I get adventurous I see what Beena has been up to and usually try some of her designs myself. I usually can only get a passing grade on my left hand so the design hardly sees outside of my house. I still really enjoy trying and one day, I shall overcome my shaky left hand application.

Addendum 🙂

One of my sheroes, Joan Morgan, has branched out from writing books that changed my life to her own line of body butters. Check out her project at and read about her hand made products inspired by the Caribbean. Her signature body butter is titled Wench, gotta love it!


Fyah Links

Quick Friday round-up.

1. It’s election time in the US so that means that it is election coverage time all over. I really have fundamental issues with the existing political system and feel that it is inherently rotten. This pure fyah article by black girl dangerous  totally underscores how I feel about elections and politics and voting and our so called democratic choice. When elections happen in my neck of the woods, I fear that I will have to really convince myself to vote and I don’t want to have to do that. I would really rather not be around.

2. Lupe Fiasco recently tweeted that he is going to retire from rap due to feedback he has gotten for his newest video for ‘ Bitch Bad’. I have never gotten into Lupe’s music but I heard good things from friends and knew him to be among the more conscious few artists that got noticed. I personally didn’t really like the song or the video, but it is a conversation starter and a welcome addition to the video rotation for what it is trying to do. I kind of thought that some bloggers went in pretty hard on him and his representations in the video/song and I can understand that he would take it personally. Is he too thin-skinned? Are social commentators too hard on those that are trying to make an impact? Do we dissect the obviously problematic music as much?

3.  The region was represented today at the 2012 Paralympian Jamol Pilgrim from Antigua. The runner took part in the 100m heats this morning. Even though he didn’t place, this is a fantastic feat for the region and Addfyah wishes him all the best in the future.

fyah links- jumping through the islands

Going regional this round.

The Caribbean athletes did phenomenon-ally in the Olympics. Special shout-outs to Kirani James and Lalonde. This the first time in a long time I’ve been unable to watch the games without getting worked up. I worry that my jadedness may ruin the simple things that I enjoy, but professional sports as a metaphor for capitalism is far too much at the forefront of my mind to enjoy it the way I used to.

Antigua, this is wholly unacceptable. I understand that there is a fine line to dance here surrounding censorship but I do think lines need to be drawn when it comes to endorsing violence. I spent a lot of time being excited about the various carnivals, but this song and the defence of it really soured my mood.

Guyana, I do not know how the protestors in Linden make it out every day.  300% rise in electricity in areas with such high unemployment. It makes me wonder if I would be on the line. What would stop me? What would put me there? I do think seeing Andaiye there may have shamed me into action. In this part of the region, especially with my class privilege there  are so many things I take for granted. Knowing that things are expensive and complaining about it while still being able to pull out the cash or swipe the card. When/ if they day comes I can no longer do that will it then seem to me more likely that I too would join that march?

Grenada, make your sole aerial and support this incredible campaign to support goat farmers!

Make a nice salad for yourself Nevis style, or some nice breadfruit cake* (never heard of this one).

Not regional but I’m pretty excited about this book. Maybe we should start a regional one, or a woc one. Black when used in an American context always seems a tad myopic.

The Ground Glass Collective has just put out a wonderfully, new beautiful set of pictures.

*So happy to see Caribbean Vegan back on the scene.

Fyah Friday

1. Violence is a major issue in our lives.  We are aware of violence against women because of the undeniable systemic and historical beliefs that cause men and women to believe that violence and abusive interactions and relationships are a normal part of life, the violence and abuse most often being inflicted upon the woman as and ‘weaker sex’

I recently have been thinking about this in the context of the predominantly mutually violent relationships that I hear about from peers and clients and peeps I interact with and it really troubles me.   I am still not sure about how I feel about this issue, what do you all think? 

2. In the 90’s I wanted to be Lauryn Hill. Songs like manifest, ex-factor, Selah spoke to my teen-aged self and I felt her humanity, her love, her dopeness and it was love at first sight. Things changed sharply a while ago and I have relished in her moments of clarity (remember So High??) and have hoped that things would turn around. Sigh. Sister Lauryn is going through some things. One can only assume mental health implications, bad business management, roller coaster relationships, weight-of -the-world expectitions and I am sure you can list others. I hope she get’s what she needs and can live comfortably with her family after she sorts out these legal issues.

3. Addfyahandstir is in full support of our brothers and sisters at the Grenada Goat Dairy Farm. Why yes I DO BELIEVE in a healthy life. In a healthy planet. That ALL children and families should have the opportunity to grow and eat healthy, nutritious organic food for their own use and for our local markets. I also have a feeling many of our fyah stirrers feel the same way. Make a donation! spread the word! We can do it! Kickstarter projects can be pretty awesome.

Have a great weekend!

fyah friday- busyness, shadeism & pap smears

I haven’t been around much this week owing to all the f’d up stuff going on over here.

That said my week has been hella busy which actually brings me to the first link. Granted dude is not the usual demographic re: people who get featured but it really spoke to me as I’ve been trying to be more mindful in what I do. The busy-ness that I experience, granted in spurts in fully self-imposed and maybe it’s just because something in this fast moving time we’re in makes me think that being still, reflective and taking my time isn’t good. 

“Notice it isn’t generally people pulling back-to-back shifts in the I.C.U. or commuting by bus to three minimum-wage jobs  who tell you how busy they are; what those people are is not busy but tired. Exhausted. Dead on their feet. It’s almost always people whose lamented busyness is purely self-imposed: work and obligations they’ve taken on voluntarily, classes and activities they’ve “encouraged” their kids to participate in. They’re busy because of their own ambition or drive or anxiety, because they’re addicted to busyness and dread what they might have to face in its absence.”

So I’ve been putting some final touches on a workshop I’ll be doing with a group of teens next month on body image and shadeism. There are  a lot of great resources out there for girls, and I would argue not enough for boys either with respect to their own body image. Also, I would say there is not enough about how our own gendered, media altered expectations influence how we view people of the opposite sex. I think this is a crucial part of equation especially when we think about reinforcing and policing that we engage in for ourselves and each other. If you haven’t already check out Shadeism, the documentary. I was in town today and saw a vendor selling a lightening soap, which she assured me was not for bleaching but getting rid of those  darker areas. She also let me know that most of her customers are young girls. What I think was more offputting for me was that I don’t think it was fully marketing, and the reach of “darker areas” is either not her concern or not something she had considered as a brown-skinned woman of African heritage.

I got a pap smear yesterday. When was your first one? Your last one? A couple years ago I went on a lime with some women in their mid 20s and was surprised to find out half of them had never had a 
pap smear. Get on it people. They say you only have to go every 3 years now, but recommend going to your gyno every year.  Find a doctor you’re comfortable with, ask questions- make them uncomfortable if you have to 🙂 even if you’re uncomfortable too. Those conversations may not transform your life but they’ll definitely make it easier if something serious does come up. Shout out to this doctor whose manner I really liked. In my life thus far I’ve had doctors I really liked who I found to be the great combination of pleasant and professional, for the rest of you doctors who can’t get it right, work on it, it makes a world of difference for your patients. Vaginas rock! 🙂 STI tests next week, who is with me?

Now I’m not a Fay-Ann fan in the slightest* but I heard this on the radio in the morning and was transported back to my carnival 2010!

* I never hear one person claim say people hate them so much.**

** Oh, I forgot Bunji :)***

*** I enjoy both of them on the stage (once they not talking about how much people hate them) and the radio, without the picong narrative it’s not so obvious how much hateration they feel they’re dealing with.

fyah Fridays!

I’ve been hella absent on the blogopshere over the last two weeks or so. I’m doing my best not to play catch up. Instead treating the information that’s out there like a river flowing by, sometimes you catch things, other times you won’t, but it’s a constant flow, lots of great stuff still to come.

Pride season is upon us. Over at Black Girl Dangerous she puts forward reasons she not in pride these days. She speaks to how important a space it was for her when she was now coming out, identifying as queer over lesbian and/or gay and how all that money pumped into pride could be spent on more pressing issues of the lgbtq communities. Reading it, I was thinking about drawing similar paralells between her position and that of carnival. Be patient with me here b4 all you mas playing, tent visiting, fete hopping people fly into a rage. I get that carnival is routed in historical significance that is so crucial to our identity as Caribbean people, I myself love a j’ouvert but for me there is always a niggling feeling that the excess is also a sign of our distance from the very real issues we face as a people. This is becoming increasingly evident as so many spaces are becoming increasingly exclusive. Maybe I’ll expand on this more another time.

Theorising homophobias in the Caribbean- Complexities of Place, Desire & Belongingis out! Complete with short stories, films,

interviews, essays and other great stuff. Shouting out Zahra Airall and Charmaine Crawford for making me feel like I know people in things. 🙂

I vaguely remember promising a pie by month end. I’ll be honest, I’m not sure how likely that it. We’ll see, it could happen. But what I did do was a mini craft project. Anyone interested can find the pattern here. My aunt taught me how initially as a child when I wasn’t pay attention. I came across this book and thought I’d become a crocheting queen. It didn’t really translate but ever so often I produce something decent looking. I made it far too small to be useful, so if anyone known a child who might like it I’ll be happy to send it your way. 🙂 You should also check out our bookshelf over at goodreads!

Here’s to bringing some fyah to the wkd! 🙂

Alison Hinds and Edwin Yearwood together?

fyah links- tv

I love tv. It’s not a love-hate relationship, it’s a pure love relationship. When I in school I was only allowed to watch television from Friday evening to Sunday evening. My parents knew what they were doing and/or they created a monster b/c that weekday deprivation meant I glommed onto the set for hours at end on the wkd.

This fixation followed me post-parental lodging. Now I don’t have a television, it was an adjustment at first until the advent of reliable online television. Now I almost always have a tab streaming a tv show or a movie in the background regardless of what I’m doing- emailing a friend, writing this post,  researching for a paper, scratching…. Anyway this post is a tribute to a different kind of television w/ I sometimes love but can sometimes be drawn into. Web tv.

I’m starting with this show b/c though I had my reservations from the start based on the second promo, I’m not a fan of the “I’m not/a ….” statements. I warmed up quickly as I watched the show b/c I’m fully awkward and could sooo identify with the main character. I cooled off considerably when it became heavy on the relationship side and even more when it came to the response to the use of the word “tranny” on the show. But I’m all about second, third maybe even fourth chances it’s season 2 time people!

Speaking of Issa Rae… have you been watching Black & Sexy TV. h/t trendsettah. Let me tell you how The Couple and The Number are hilarious. I certainly prefer The Couple, I find the dynamics of the two super relatable. For The Number, it has more of a sitcom feel which always depends on some sort of shaming for it’s humour. I’m tabling the analysis of the heterosexism and sexism for another post.

Okay… And completely out of left field. I love Web Therapy. I wasn’t a fan of Lisa Kuddrow on Friends (yes, I used to watch Friends) but on this show she’s hilarious. There are many reasons I shouldn’t like it, the representation of therapists is sketchy but she’s HILARIOUS. I love and delight in awkward humour and humour of oblivion.

And back to readily identifiable shows I’d like… Have you seen The Peculiar Kind? It’s a pretty cool interview/ segment/ clip show with queer poc in NY. It has a great feel. It’s nice to see different faces representing queer poc i.e. the real world versus the token queer poc you see in most tv shows that bother to remember/ represent the community.

Any other good webtv I’m missing out on?

Random goodness…

Happy Friday everyone! It’s the beginning of my last full weekend in Toronto so my apartment is crowded with boxes, suitcases and (in a few hours) people. I wanted to keep things light today, since everything else is feeling so heavy right now (I’m oscillating between being overjoyed and breaking down in tears).

I thank god for Facebook sometimes and the random things people share such as 25 Handy Words That Simply Don’t Exist in English. My personal favourites on the list are arigata-meiwaku, l’esprit de l’escalier (because this always happens to me) and mamihlapinatapai (because it sounds kind of beautiful).

One of my friends and I constantly have discussions about body hair. If she had unlimited funds, she would probably laser every strand of hair that grows on her below her eyes. I’m not sure I wouldn’t do the same thing (even my conditioning has been conditioned) but I definitely fight it and question it a little bit more. Said friend passed on this article on ideal body hair to me which I found to be hilarious (and disturbing at the same time). Even if you don’t have time to read the whole thing, please scroll down and look at what three young men drew to represent “good” and “bad” body hair. We could discuss the policing of womyn’s bodies and hair forever, but those drawings both unsettle me and bring me so much joy.

Last but not least, the lovely trendsettah and my body hair friend passed on this blog to me, and when I finally looked at it, I was not remotely disappointed. I think of it as Toronto’s going away gift to me – something to always remember the bad dates, excellent brunches and white people at Caribana by. Thank you.

What random goodness have you come across, my wonderful fyah stirrers?

fyah links

This self-care story is kicking me in the backside. This has been a hectic convoluted week, and something tells me it’s just the lead in to a hectic convoluted month. My is near non-existent, no direction just frenzied movement. So this is a rather eclectic collection.

Polyamory. I’ve never been a believer. I’m not sure I thought it was dishonest, I just thought it was impossible. However a  few months ago a new friend spoke to me about her experience with it which in many ways mirrored this author’s and it sounded so powerful- the honesty, the communication… I like rules. Actually I love rules, and really if people can be honest with themselves and their partners they can uncover all those latent messages around relationships that they hold to be true and figure out a path that can work for them both. It must be scary… polyamourous or not.

Young Caribbean feminists, young Caribbean women. Things are happening. Catch a Fire this month is bound to be incredible. The planning and networking potential tied in with all the stuff that will happen when people get home…. Excitement. CIWIL is back! Caribbean women 21-30 interested in leadership, a whole training programme in Barbados. Make it happen people deadline is the 18th May, 2012.

Finally… Since Februray I said I would make myself a pie. Have I done it yet? No.  fyah stirrers, I’m putting this here to hold myself accountable. By the end of July I need to have made one of these pies and posted a picture on this site. If you have recommendations re: which pie be sure to let me know.

Fyah Links Friday

Friday is here and it has been a helluva week. Got a parking ticket, spent too much money, can’t find my camera, missed a deadline,  been reckless with my eating and yeah,  I’m sure you get the picture.

However the redemption and salvation of the week is here and I want to share some of the few interesting links I came across.

Free learning yall! There’s almost something for anyone on this page and it’s a great link to browse lots of different online learning programmes for those of us ( me) who need to take active steps towards graduate education.

Live strong I have been on this site for a while and love it. It has great resources for healthy living in general and is great for vegetarian/vegan/pescatarians like myself.

So happy to learn about the Frida fund grantees. Inspired much? Congrats to the grantees and to the Frida fund for your awesome work.

I have been out of the loop in terms of music for a while. My friend introduced me to DJ Private Ryan‘s podcast link where you can find lots of new and old stuff nicely packaged for download.

How do they know my life???

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