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fyah friday- busyness, shadeism & pap smears

I haven’t been around much this week owing to all the f’d up stuff going on over here.

That said my week has been hella busy which actually brings me to the first link. Granted dude is not the usual demographic re: people who get featured but it really spoke to me as I’ve been trying to be more mindful in what I do. The busy-ness that I experience, granted in spurts in fully self-imposed and maybe it’s just because something in this fast moving time we’re in makes me think that being still, reflective and taking my time isn’t good. 

“Notice it isn’t generally people pulling back-to-back shifts in the I.C.U. or commuting by bus to three minimum-wage jobs  who tell you how busy they are; what those people are is not busy but tired. Exhausted. Dead on their feet. It’s almost always people whose lamented busyness is purely self-imposed: work and obligations they’ve taken on voluntarily, classes and activities they’ve “encouraged” their kids to participate in. They’re busy because of their own ambition or drive or anxiety, because they’re addicted to busyness and dread what they might have to face in its absence.”

So I’ve been putting some final touches on a workshop I’ll be doing with a group of teens next month on body image and shadeism. There are  a lot of great resources out there for girls, and I would argue not enough for boys either with respect to their own body image. Also, I would say there is not enough about how our own gendered, media altered expectations influence how we view people of the opposite sex. I think this is a crucial part of equation especially when we think about reinforcing and policing that we engage in for ourselves and each other. If you haven’t already check out Shadeism, the documentary. I was in town today and saw a vendor selling a lightening soap, which she assured me was not for bleaching but getting rid of those  darker areas. She also let me know that most of her customers are young girls. What I think was more offputting for me was that I don’t think it was fully marketing, and the reach of “darker areas” is either not her concern or not something she had considered as a brown-skinned woman of African heritage.

I got a pap smear yesterday. When was your first one? Your last one? A couple years ago I went on a lime with some women in their mid 20s and was surprised to find out half of them had never had a 
pap smear. Get on it people. They say you only have to go every 3 years now, but recommend going to your gyno every year.  Find a doctor you’re comfortable with, ask questions- make them uncomfortable if you have to 🙂 even if you’re uncomfortable too. Those conversations may not transform your life but they’ll definitely make it easier if something serious does come up. Shout out to this doctor whose manner I really liked. In my life thus far I’ve had doctors I really liked who I found to be the great combination of pleasant and professional, for the rest of you doctors who can’t get it right, work on it, it makes a world of difference for your patients. Vaginas rock! 🙂 STI tests next week, who is with me?

Now I’m not a Fay-Ann fan in the slightest* but I heard this on the radio in the morning and was transported back to my carnival 2010!

* I never hear one person claim say people hate them so much.**

** Oh, I forgot Bunji :)***

*** I enjoy both of them on the stage (once they not talking about how much people hate them) and the radio, without the picong narrative it’s not so obvious how much hateration they feel they’re dealing with.

fyah Fridays!

I’ve been hella absent on the blogopshere over the last two weeks or so. I’m doing my best not to play catch up. Instead treating the information that’s out there like a river flowing by, sometimes you catch things, other times you won’t, but it’s a constant flow, lots of great stuff still to come.

Pride season is upon us. Over at Black Girl Dangerous she puts forward reasons she not in pride these days. She speaks to how important a space it was for her when she was now coming out, identifying as queer over lesbian and/or gay and how all that money pumped into pride could be spent on more pressing issues of the lgbtq communities. Reading it, I was thinking about drawing similar paralells between her position and that of carnival. Be patient with me here b4 all you mas playing, tent visiting, fete hopping people fly into a rage. I get that carnival is routed in historical significance that is so crucial to our identity as Caribbean people, I myself love a j’ouvert but for me there is always a niggling feeling that the excess is also a sign of our distance from the very real issues we face as a people. This is becoming increasingly evident as so many spaces are becoming increasingly exclusive. Maybe I’ll expand on this more another time.

Theorising homophobias in the Caribbean- Complexities of Place, Desire & Belongingis out! Complete with short stories, films,

interviews, essays and other great stuff. Shouting out Zahra Airall and Charmaine Crawford for making me feel like I know people in things. 🙂

I vaguely remember promising a pie by month end. I’ll be honest, I’m not sure how likely that it. We’ll see, it could happen. But what I did do was a mini craft project. Anyone interested can find the pattern here. My aunt taught me how initially as a child when I wasn’t pay attention. I came across this book and thought I’d become a crocheting queen. It didn’t really translate but ever so often I produce something decent looking. I made it far too small to be useful, so if anyone known a child who might like it I’ll be happy to send it your way. 🙂 You should also check out our bookshelf over at goodreads!

Here’s to bringing some fyah to the wkd! 🙂

Alison Hinds and Edwin Yearwood together?

fyah links- tv

I love tv. It’s not a love-hate relationship, it’s a pure love relationship. When I in school I was only allowed to watch television from Friday evening to Sunday evening. My parents knew what they were doing and/or they created a monster b/c that weekday deprivation meant I glommed onto the set for hours at end on the wkd.

This fixation followed me post-parental lodging. Now I don’t have a television, it was an adjustment at first until the advent of reliable online television. Now I almost always have a tab streaming a tv show or a movie in the background regardless of what I’m doing- emailing a friend, writing this post,  researching for a paper, scratching…. Anyway this post is a tribute to a different kind of television w/ I sometimes love but can sometimes be drawn into. Web tv.

I’m starting with this show b/c though I had my reservations from the start based on the second promo, I’m not a fan of the “I’m not/a ….” statements. I warmed up quickly as I watched the show b/c I’m fully awkward and could sooo identify with the main character. I cooled off considerably when it became heavy on the relationship side and even more when it came to the response to the use of the word “tranny” on the show. But I’m all about second, third maybe even fourth chances it’s season 2 time people!

Speaking of Issa Rae… have you been watching Black & Sexy TV. h/t trendsettah. Let me tell you how The Couple and The Number are hilarious. I certainly prefer The Couple, I find the dynamics of the two super relatable. For The Number, it has more of a sitcom feel which always depends on some sort of shaming for it’s humour. I’m tabling the analysis of the heterosexism and sexism for another post.

Okay… And completely out of left field. I love Web Therapy. I wasn’t a fan of Lisa Kuddrow on Friends (yes, I used to watch Friends) but on this show she’s hilarious. There are many reasons I shouldn’t like it, the representation of therapists is sketchy but she’s HILARIOUS. I love and delight in awkward humour and humour of oblivion.

And back to readily identifiable shows I’d like… Have you seen The Peculiar Kind? It’s a pretty cool interview/ segment/ clip show with queer poc in NY. It has a great feel. It’s nice to see different faces representing queer poc i.e. the real world versus the token queer poc you see in most tv shows that bother to remember/ represent the community.

Any other good webtv I’m missing out on?

Random goodness…

Happy Friday everyone! It’s the beginning of my last full weekend in Toronto so my apartment is crowded with boxes, suitcases and (in a few hours) people. I wanted to keep things light today, since everything else is feeling so heavy right now (I’m oscillating between being overjoyed and breaking down in tears).

I thank god for Facebook sometimes and the random things people share such as 25 Handy Words That Simply Don’t Exist in English. My personal favourites on the list are arigata-meiwaku, l’esprit de l’escalier (because this always happens to me) and mamihlapinatapai (because it sounds kind of beautiful).

One of my friends and I constantly have discussions about body hair. If she had unlimited funds, she would probably laser every strand of hair that grows on her below her eyes. I’m not sure I wouldn’t do the same thing (even my conditioning has been conditioned) but I definitely fight it and question it a little bit more. Said friend passed on this article on ideal body hair to me which I found to be hilarious (and disturbing at the same time). Even if you don’t have time to read the whole thing, please scroll down and look at what three young men drew to represent “good” and “bad” body hair. We could discuss the policing of womyn’s bodies and hair forever, but those drawings both unsettle me and bring me so much joy.

Last but not least, the lovely trendsettah and my body hair friend passed on this blog to me, and when I finally looked at it, I was not remotely disappointed. I think of it as Toronto’s going away gift to me – something to always remember the bad dates, excellent brunches and white people at Caribana by. Thank you.

What random goodness have you come across, my wonderful fyah stirrers?

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This self-care story is kicking me in the backside. This has been a hectic convoluted week, and something tells me it’s just the lead in to a hectic convoluted month. My is near non-existent, no direction just frenzied movement. So this is a rather eclectic collection.

Polyamory. I’ve never been a believer. I’m not sure I thought it was dishonest, I just thought it was impossible. However a  few months ago a new friend spoke to me about her experience with it which in many ways mirrored this author’s and it sounded so powerful- the honesty, the communication… I like rules. Actually I love rules, and really if people can be honest with themselves and their partners they can uncover all those latent messages around relationships that they hold to be true and figure out a path that can work for them both. It must be scary… polyamourous or not.

Young Caribbean feminists, young Caribbean women. Things are happening. Catch a Fire this month is bound to be incredible. The planning and networking potential tied in with all the stuff that will happen when people get home…. Excitement. CIWIL is back! Caribbean women 21-30 interested in leadership, a whole training programme in Barbados. Make it happen people deadline is the 18th May, 2012.

Finally… Since Februray I said I would make myself a pie. Have I done it yet? No.  fyah stirrers, I’m putting this here to hold myself accountable. By the end of July I need to have made one of these pies and posted a picture on this site. If you have recommendations re: which pie be sure to let me know.

Fyah Links Friday

Friday is here and it has been a helluva week. Got a parking ticket, spent too much money, can’t find my camera, missed a deadline,  been reckless with my eating and yeah,  I’m sure you get the picture.

However the redemption and salvation of the week is here and I want to share some of the few interesting links I came across.

Free learning yall! There’s almost something for anyone on this page and it’s a great link to browse lots of different online learning programmes for those of us ( me) who need to take active steps towards graduate education.

Live strong I have been on this site for a while and love it. It has great resources for healthy living in general and is great for vegetarian/vegan/pescatarians like myself.

So happy to learn about the Frida fund grantees. Inspired much? Congrats to the grantees and to the Frida fund for your awesome work.

I have been out of the loop in terms of music for a while. My friend introduced me to DJ Private Ryan‘s podcast link where you can find lots of new and old stuff nicely packaged for download.

How do they know my life???

Fyah Links Friday

If  I was a rich girl (shout out to Louchie Lou) I would buy lots of art. I have a few pieces up on my walls currently but I would love to support Caribbean, African, Indigenous photographers,  painters and sculptors and craft persons and fill my space with colour and light and creativity and all that good stuff.

Until then, I stalk it online 🙂

I wanna share some stuff that I have found, hope you enjoy it as well.

1.) This little girl and her afro makes me smile 🙂

2.)  This site has photography,  design, as well as quotes. I really enjoy browsing

3.) The District, a new offshoot from African Digital Art , displaying and discussing creative expression from continental Africa

By the way, I love these bracelets! Anyone know where I can get a few let me know! 

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